Today i am cranky, no make that FUMING!
Little man has been doing swimming lessons since he was about 3 months old, he loved the water and i really wanted to encourage water safety and respect. Somewhere along the line though, he sort of stopped liking it.... but i was ok with that, i was willing for him to be less than happy for 20 mins a week for the sake of him being safer around water, and for me to be confident that should the worst happen, he would know what to do.
But then at the start of this term, the school changed his teacher. Gone was our tough but kind teacher, who followed each thing that made little man unhappy with a big hug. In came another teacher.... this one doesnt seem to know how to deal with unhappy or scared kids! Happy kids, not a problem, but one cry and she doesnt have a clue.
We are very much attachment parents in this family, we have worked hard to build respect and trust with our little boy so when the teacher asks me to leave the pool area and threatens H that if he doesnt stop crying Mummy wont be coming back in, it really goes against the grain of what i have always strived to teach him.
Top that off with telling another child not to give H a toy, because he is being naughty, and i damn near had to stop by Dad from decking her :-) He isnt being naughty lady, he is a scared little 2 year old, being pushed around by a grown woman! Perhaps if you tried explaining what you are doing and what you want him to do rather than forcing him you might have more luck! The "is he used to getting what he wants all the time" comment when he wouldnt do what he asked had ME wanting to deck her. NO lady, he certainly doesnt get what he wants all the time, but when it comes to his own body, i have the respect to ask him if it is ok to do something and if he asks me to stop doing something we do. Simple! Would you be thrilled at having someone 3 times your size hold your head under the water! I think not. I think you might be just a little upset yourself....
But today was the end of the line, this woman, whilst holding H in the middle of the pool to work on rolling onto his back to float if he falls in head first, says to a frightened 2 year old, "If you dont roll over, i am going to let go and walk away" Way to go lady, scare the crap out of an already scared little kid. Way to make him feel safe in the water. Do what i say or i will leave you to drown.
So as i said, i am fuming! Unfortunately the director of the school is very hard core herself so i honestly dont think saying something would make any difference at all. We have requested to be moved back to the old teacher from next week and wont be returning to the school next term. It is just not worth watching a normally very laid back, give anything a go kind of kid, clinging to me for dear life when we walk into the pool. That is not what we signed up for and i cant imagine any parent, attachment or not thinking that kind of behaviour is ok. It breaks my heart to see him like that, so enough is enough.
Fingers crossed the new school we try next term will be better. At least they allow me in the pool with him, so we can start to rebuild his confidence and trust.
Ok, rant over :-)
Wednesday, 5 September 2012
After stumbling across some fantastic blogs of late I have become a convert to the "real" food way of life. People like Carrie at Deliciously Organic and Lisa at 100 days of real food have inpired me to rethink how i feed myself and my family.
I have always tried to make healthy food, but i think like most people i get so caught up in the low fat, calorie counting, not too much sugar, watch what you eat mentality that after a while it all just seems to hard to follow and i get exhausted. I figure i have enough on my plate with work, study and family without having to be the food police, but then of course the guilt kicks in when i see H eat a biscuit :-(
Anyhoo, i think that is why the Real Food idea speaks to me so much, its just so simple. At first glance most people would think that there is just too much too it, but for me, i like the simple guidelines that Real Food offer. Eat fresh, real food and dont eat anything highly processed. Simple!
We have been eating "real" for about a week now and it is finally a way of life i can see myself sticking too indefinately. Even my Mr Skeptical husband was impressed with my dinner of wholemeal tortillas, slow cooked refried beans and marinated chicken, (all homemade, from scratch) the other night!
The best bit is, with a bit of prep and organisation it really wasnt a whole lot more time cooking than normal and i have the benefit of knowing exactly what is going into what we eat.
For some reason, i dont seem to mind spending a little extra time in the kitchen when the results are so good and my conscious feels clear.
So in the hope of inspiring you to give the "real" food idea a go i thought i would share tonights Taco Salad dinner with you. Yummo!
|Before adding the salads. (please ignore the shoddy photography!)|
Made enough for 2 adults and a toddler plus lunch for all the next day.
Taco Meat (recipe below)
Refried beans (recipe below)
1 avocado, cut into cubes
4 tomatoes, thickly diced
Sour cream, to serve
Grated cheese, to serve
Cooked brown rice, 3/4 cup per person
Lettuce, to serve
Cook up the Taco Meat and Refried Beans as per the recipes below. Use as much or little chilli as you like for your families taste.
To serve, add the rice to the plate, top with some of the chicken, a good dollop of the refried beans and sprinkle with grated cheese while everuthing is still nice and hot.
Top with the avocado, tomato and lettuce (or whatever salad you like really) and drizzle with sour cream. Enjoy
1 tbs coconut oil
500g chicken thighs (preferably local, organic), thinly sliced
1 tbs garlic
1 tsp cumin powder
1 tsp paprika powder
1 tsp chilli powder
Splash of lime juice
Heat the coconut oil in a large frypan over medium heat, add chicken and garlic, then sprinkle spices over the top. Cook until browned all over and cooked through. Splash the lime juice over right at the end.
Refried Beans in the slow cooker (adapted from the 100 days recipe)
1 small onion, cut into large chunks
1 cup dry pinto beans, rinsed
½ tsp chilli powder (we like it quite milk, but feel free to add extra to taste)
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 tsp cumin
1 tsp corriander powder
3 cups water
Fresh corriander, finely chopped
Add all ingredients to the bowl of a slow cooker and cook for 8 hours on low. When beans are lovely and soft, drain the beans, reserving the liquid and blitz in a food processor (or mash with a potato masher if you dont have one), adding as much or little of the reserved liquid as you like to get a nice consistancy. Stir through the fresh corriander just before serving.
I would love to hear any adaptions you make and what you think of this salad.
Until next time...